Healing is messy work. It’s not linear. It’s late nights with a lump in your throat, wondering how someone you once held so closely could drift so far and feel so cold.

I’ve been doing the inner work. Trying to find peace inside myself. Learning how to let go of someone I used to love—someone I once thought would be there when the dust settled. But the more I sit with it… the more I realize she didn’t want me. Not really.

And that realization? It cuts deep. It’s not just the loss—it’s the way it slowly seeps in that I’ve been clinging to someone who stopped caring a long time ago. Someone who made it clear—in silence, in absence, in sideways comments—that I wasn’t worth the effort. That I didn’t deserve apologies or closure. That I was just the sum of my past mistakes.

Yes, I made mistakes. I’ve owned that. I’ve asked for forgiveness from people I hurt. I’ve faced myself in ways most people avoid. I’ve unpacked the shame, the guilt, the survival patterns. I’ve held my own hand through storms I never thought I’d survive.

But her? She didn’t meet me there.

And I’ve finally accepted: she’s not worth the pain anymore.

If you truly love someone, you show up. You do the work. You lean into the hard conversations. You meet each other with compassion, not punishment. You don’t hold someone hostage to their past when they’re actively trying to grow.

A relationship—any relationship—is a two-way street. Love without effort is just convenience. And I’m done begging for crumbs from someone who stopped bringing anything to the table.

I don’t have time for this shit anymore.

I’ve got a life to rebuild. A heart to take care of. A future to walk toward. One where I’m not constantly questioning my worth in someone else’s eyes.

So here’s to release. To choosing myself. To walking away—not because I didn’t care—but because I finally do.

And you?

✨ What are you ready to stop chasing?

✨ Who or what are you finally done shrinking yourself for?

✨ What would it look like to choose you today?